Not to long ago while browsing the explore tab on my instagram I found a plus size model’s instagram which lead to me to find the body positive tag and other tags such as the fat acceptance tag. As you know I like to comment on things that I see online and try to remain objective, because in my field anything you say could come back to bite you in the arse 30 years down the line, but with this issue I do wanna share my own opinions, so here we go. (Forgive me if this isn’t the most well thought out or written entry)
I think the body positive movement, like any movement, has it’s good points and it’s bad points. I love that the body positive movement is encouraging women to love their bodies, to embrace their curves, and all the things that might seen as an imperfection. I love this because too many girls and women have been shamed, bullied or just straight up taught to hate certain things about themselves. Some girls are strong enough to deal with it, others aren’t and this can lead to eating disorders and self harm. The body positive movement can help prevent this by breaking the mold and teaching others to not be so close minded and teaching girls and women that they are beautiful despite what society might say. It helps build up that self confidence and self love that is so important. I know girls look at models and want to be a size 2 or 4 because that’s what is thought to be sexy. I know that some girls are made fun of for their big boobs, wide hips, thick thighs and big butts. Thank God for (as vouge calls it) the era of the booty. Cause seriously fuck someone who can’t appreciate these things.
Now for the negatives. The body positive movement has been linked to other tags such as the fatkini, pizzasisters, losehatenotweight, fatacceptance, honormycurves and other tags of the sort. Here’s my problem with this. Number one there is a difference between being fat and being curvy. I know you big girls hate to hear that but it’s the truth. It’s important to know the difference because number one, you can be skinny and curvy, curvy does not equal being overweight, and number two if you’re trying to lose weight your body type is important to know what kinds of exercises you should be doing. Number two (and this is just my opinion based on what I have seen) the body acceptance, fatkini, fatacceptance, pizzzasisters, and losehatenotweight and effyourhealthstandards tags are mostly if not mainly supported by big girls, and i’m not just talking about girls who have a couple of extra pounds i mean girls who are morbidly obese. My problems with this are many so bear with me. Number one i feel that these girls are in fact promoting obesity. Anytime anyone makes a comment, not even a rude comment, but just a simple comment saying that self confidence is great but that so is taking care of your body and gives them facts about what obesity does to a person, they flip their lid. Number two some, not all, but some of these girls say that it is ok not to exercise or they make some excuse as to why they cannot lose the weight. This is not good. There’s so many people out there with health conditions that are exercising their asses off because it causes them to lose weight. Number three, while i absolutely agree that a girl or woman should feel beautiful at any size some of these girls take it too far. Ladies if you want to take sexy pics in your lingerie more power to you but to me it’s distasteful and private for that special someone, it’s just how I was raised. Is this close minded of me? Perhaps but I don’t want to see it, sorry. Number four I feel that if the body positive movement were really about loving your self no matter what size you are there would be more skinny girls on the tag supporting the movement. Some girls are ridiculed for being too skinny and called anorexic and bulimic because they are naturally thin and that is not right either, that can hurt as well. The movement should include everyone from size 2-22. I also feel that it would be taken more seriously this way as well and not seen as it just being big girls saying eff you to society’s beauty standards.
So in conclusion I love the body positive movement for teaching self love and self confidence. But I hate that it has been linked to the fat acceptance movement. Being morbidly obese is not okay. I don’t say this because of looks, I say it because of health. Can you be obese and not have any health problems, absolutely but the extra weight is still putting stress on your joints and on your internal organs and will eventually take it’s toll. So ladies love yourself, fuck people that feel the need to belittle you and make fun of you because you’re well let’s face it, fat. But realize that being obese is no bueno.
Please please please i beg you do not take this and me fatshaming or bashing big girls because that is not my intention. I’m struggling with my weight as well and it took me a long time to love my big boobs, thick thighs and somewhat big butt, but I do. But I also know that diabetes and high cholesterol run in my family and that I don’t want to have these health issues. I also know that belly fat is linked to heart attacks and want to avoid that at all cost. My intention with this is to get you to realize that.