Not to long ago while browsing the explore tab on my instagram I found a plus size model’s instagram which lead to me to find the body positive tag and other tags such as the fat acceptance tag. As you know I like to comment on things that I see online and try to remain objective, because in my field anything you say could come back to bite you in the arse 30 years down the line, but with this issue I do wanna share my own opinions, so here we go. (Forgive me if this isn’t the most well thought out or written entry)
I think the body positive movement, like any movement, has it’s good points and it’s bad points. I love that the body positive movement is encouraging women to love their bodies, to embrace their curves, and all the things that might seen as an imperfection. I love this because too many girls and women have been shamed, bullied or just straight up taught to hate certain things about themselves. Some girls are strong enough to deal with it, others aren’t and this can lead to eating disorders and self harm. The body positive movement can help prevent this by breaking the mold and teaching others to not be so close minded and teaching girls and women that they are beautiful despite what society might say. It helps build up that self confidence and self love that is so important. I know girls look at models and want to be a size 2 or 4 because that’s what is thought to be sexy. I know that some girls are made fun of for their big boobs, wide hips, thick thighs and big butts. Thank God for (as vouge calls it) the era of the booty. Cause seriously fuck someone who can’t appreciate these things.
Now for the negatives. The body positive movement has been linked to other tags such as the fatkini, pizzasisters, losehatenotweight, fatacceptance, honormycurves and other tags of the sort. Here’s my problem with this. Number one there is a difference between being fat and being curvy. I know you big girls hate to hear that but it’s the truth. It’s important to know the difference because number one, you can be skinny and curvy, curvy does not equal being overweight, and number two if you’re trying to lose weight your body type is important to know what kinds of exercises you should be doing. Number two (and this is just my opinion based on what I have seen) the body acceptance, fatkini, fatacceptance, pizzzasisters, and losehatenotweight and effyourhealthstandards tags are mostly if not mainly supported by big girls, and i’m not just talking about girls who have a couple of extra pounds i mean girls who are morbidly obese. My problems with this are many so bear with me. Number one i feel that these girls are in fact promoting obesity. Anytime anyone makes a comment, not even a rude comment, but just a simple comment saying that self confidence is great but that so is taking care of your body and gives them facts about what obesity does to a person, they flip their lid. Number two some, not all, but some of these girls say that it is ok not to exercise or they make some excuse as to why they cannot lose the weight. This is not good. There’s so many people out there with health conditions that are exercising their asses off because it causes them to lose weight. Number three, while i absolutely agree that a girl or woman should feel beautiful at any size some of these girls take it too far. Ladies if you want to take sexy pics in your lingerie more power to you but to me it’s distasteful and private for that special someone, it’s just how I was raised. Is this close minded of me? Perhaps but I don’t want to see it, sorry. Number four I feel that if the body positive movement were really about loving your self no matter what size you are there would be more skinny girls on the tag supporting the movement. Some girls are ridiculed for being too skinny and called anorexic and bulimic because they are naturally thin and that is not right either, that can hurt as well. The movement should include everyone from size 2-22. I also feel that it would be taken more seriously this way as well and not seen as it just being big girls saying eff you to society’s beauty standards.
So in conclusion I love the body positive movement for teaching self love and self confidence. But I hate that it has been linked to the fat acceptance movement. Being morbidly obese is not okay. I don’t say this because of looks, I say it because of health. Can you be obese and not have any health problems, absolutely but the extra weight is still putting stress on your joints and on your internal organs and will eventually take it’s toll. So ladies love yourself, fuck people that feel the need to belittle you and make fun of you because you’re well let’s face it, fat. But realize that being obese is no bueno.
Please please please i beg you do not take this and me fatshaming or bashing big girls because that is not my intention. I’m struggling with my weight as well and it took me a long time to love my big boobs, thick thighs and somewhat big butt, but I do. But I also know that diabetes and high cholesterol run in my family and that I don’t want to have these health issues. I also know that belly fat is linked to heart attacks and want to avoid that at all cost. My intention with this is to get you to realize that.
i wanted to write a little follow up to my pervious post. if you read it you know that i mentioned medical conditions are no excuse for being overweight and not working out. i say this because i truly believe it, let me explain why. if you read even later in my blog you know that i had a procedure done last summer that caused me to gain a bunch of weight, allow me to explain what happened. i ended up in the er and found out i have two cyst, one in my liver and one somewhere in my pelvic area. they are both huge cyst, like really really huge, so much so that i got admitted to the hospital and my team of doctors, yes i had a team, got really worried and finally decided that they needed to be drained. i ended up getting only the liver cyst drained. because of the drain i couldn’t do any exercise, like i had been doing, for the entire time it was in (which was almost 4 months) and gained a bunch of weight. despite being back in the gym immediately after that thing was finally pulled out i couldn’t seem to get my damn stomach to go down, and you guessed it’s because of the damn cyst, my arms have toned up, my legs have too, and it seems my back fat has shrunk, but my damn stomach will not. add to this the fact that i’m anemic and that i have no energy what so ever and working out causes me to be drained and come home and go straight to bed and you’d think that i would have every excuse not to go to the gym, but i’m there almost everyday sweating my ass off because i refuse to be overweight. so if i can do it, so can you. if you have a medical condition that causes you to gain weight that should be even more motivation to go the gym so that you can keep the weight off.
I try not to vocie my opinions on here and stay objective unless i’m doing a review of something but there’s some things I’m seeing all over the internet that just bug me and I need to rant about, so please feel free to ignore this post.
#1 fit people that feel the need to put everyone who doesn’t lift or workout super hard, or overweight who are actually trying to exercise down. Who are you to judge? Anyone who is out there working out and trying to get in shape and be healthyis awesome
#2 plus size girls who call themselves curvy. Girl you are not curvy you are, i hate to say it, fat! Your rolls are not curves! You are using the word wrong, curvy is used to describe a girl or woman that has a well defined waist because she has boobs and hips that make it stand out, for example beyonce is curvy. Basically if you’re pear shaped or have and hourglass figure, you are curvy.
#3 overweight weight girls that swear you can be morbidly obese and healthy. While you may not have high cholesterol, high blood pressure or diabetes doesn’t mean you’re healthy. Eventually it will take a toll on your body, on your joints specifically.
#4 people making excuses for not working out and being overweight. Oh but I have a medical condition that makes me fat, or i can’t afford to go to the gym. Ugh seriously if you want to get in shape you will do it! A medical condition is not an excuse for being fat and you don’t have to go to the gym to workout, workout at home, go running, go hiking, go buy some inexpensive resistence tubes.
#5 people saying it’s ok to be fat (you know those body acceptance girls) and even posting pics of themselves in bikinis and their underwear. i get it, i get that everyone should feel comfortable in their own skin, feel beautiful and never let anyone put them down no matter what their size, afterall we are all people, we are all the same, we all deserve respect, and no one should ever feel the need to go and purge or develop an eating disorder because some punk is making them feel bad. however i’m sorry but you do not have to accept being overweight, love your body but love it enough to take care of it. in regards to posting pics in bikinis and whatnot, sorry again but no one wants to to see all you fat and rolls, gross! just because they make it in your size doesn’t mean you should wear it
Research suggest that women who strength train at least an hour a week reduce their chances of developing type 2 diabetes by 28%. So ladies go out their and lift, do some push ups, plank, and for my fellow yogis do that ansa we all hate so much aka chaturanga
Coachella, Lollapolloza, Riot Fest, these are the things that come to mind when I think of the Adam Levine Collection for Women. Bralettes, croptops, tops with cutouts, boho dresses, aztec prints and bright colred shorts, all staples of festival clothing which leads me to believe that Behati had a huge influence on it. While the collection is largely festival clothing, and targeted at girls shopping in the junior’s section, I believe that there is something dor everyone. The collection features some very cute tops and skirts that almost every girl will like, and who doesn’t love a pair of comfy jeans? So while the majority of the collection is boho chic, it is worth taking a look at.